Distance yourself from the people that make you feel like you’re not good enough, even if it’s your boyfriend or best friend—you know deep down in your heart if someone isn’t good for you, so live your truth.
Don’t say yes when you want to say no. Respect yourself enough to say no when you know you don’t want to do something—trying to please everyone will only set you back.
Stop comparing yourself to other people. Just stop. Everyone has their own journey, and you could be comparing your life to someone you actually know nothing about. Live your own life at your own pace. Remember that you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, and you might be aspiring to be someone that may not love themselves or their life at all.
Let yourself feel before you heal. Try to understand all of your feelings and then accept them. If you need more clarity, try writing it down on a piece of paper. Know that it’s okay to have these feelings, and don’t punish yourself for it. Once you give yourself the time to understand your mindset, you will begin to heal.
Celebrate your wins, no matter how small. You may not have done everything you needed to, but you got through something you have been putting off for a while. Focus on the fact that you achieved something you have been avoiding, and save the rest for tomorrow. You did what you could, and it was enough.
Be kind to yourself. Don’t put yourself down. Don’t let one negative thought become the way you feel about yourself. Try to turn a negative into a positive; watch how quickly your mindset can change from actively trying to be more positive about yourself.
Take care of yourself. Go for more walks, find something that you enjoy, something that makes you feel good about yourself, and try and do it a few times a week. Try to turn old, bad habits into new ones that are good for you.
Think about the people you spend time with. Are they toxic? Do they bring you down? Do you feel like you are worth more than the way they make you feel? It might be time to evaluate the kind of people you are surrounding yourself with and align yourself with people that lift you up and appreciate you. Also unfollow people on social media that make you feel like you need to look a certain way or you are constantly comparing yourself to. It’s called self-preservation, and it’s powerful.
Learn to stand up for yourself. Take control of a situation when you feel like you are being taken advantage of. It might be uncomfortable at first, but once you start to stand up for yourself you will learn to respect yourself so much more over time.
Understand that loving yourself is a process. It’s not going to happen overnight. Be patient with yourself, and give yourself the time you need to heal and grow to love who you are on the inside and on the outside. Don’t let anyone stand in the way of the person you are becoming.
